Tag: parents of college applicants

The College Parent Trap – Rantings and Advice About Parenting College Students

Okay this is for my fellow parents of college students. Can we talk about mixed messages for a minute? From the moment our children sprang forth into the world we have been told in every way imaginable to be attentive to and engaged in their education and development.

Read to them. Get the right mobile to hang over the crib. Read to them. Get toys and games that help them to learn. Read to them. Get to know their teachers. Be a classroom volunteer (read to them and other people’s kids). Coach youth sports. Chaperone field trips. Follow what they are learning and partner with their teachers. Encourage them to read. Be involved with their school community. Continue reading “The College Parent Trap – Rantings and Advice About Parenting College Students”

College Application Download

Tuesday afternoon I was sitting in the stately, wood-paneled admissions office meeting room at an upstate New York liberal arts college waiting for the information session to begin when a Facebook message from an old friend pinged onto my smartphone. I was 27 hours and two campus tours into a three day, five state, 982-mile college tour with our son, Henry (a rising high school senior) and the message from my friend – we’ll call him John because, well, that’s his name – was an unexpected and welcome distraction while the other prospective students and families filed into the room.

As it turns out, John, who is also the parent of a high school senior immersed in the college search process, was writing to ask about the relative merits of using the Common Application versus an individual college’s application if they accept both. It’s a great question. Continue reading “College Application Download”

Getting a Little Testy: A Few Thoughts about Standardized Tests

Have you seen the blog post circulating on Facebook (FB) with the headline: Our son got accepted at Stanford? It’s written by a tech blogger whose son got into Stanford after increasing his SAT scores 720 points using an online SAT prep course. It seems to appear in my FB news feed three times a day so I’m guessing many of you have seen it somewhere along the way as well. Continue reading “Getting a Little Testy: A Few Thoughts about Standardized Tests”

Road Trip: Everything You Need to Know About Campus Visits – Part 2

It’s time. You’ve been talking about getting serious about the upcoming college search for months and as you look at the commitments on your calendar – summer jobs, soccer camp, house guests coming in August, etc. – you realize that you need to plan a trip to visit colleges soon. Otherwise the whole summer will have passed you by and you’ll be left scrambling to squeeze one in after the school year has begun.

If your house is anything like mine, talking about trips is one thing and actually making them happen is another. For us this means that Marnie, my wife, starts saying things like, “When do you want to go on vacation next summer?” in oh, let’s say November, and I either grunt or say something along the lines of, “How the hell do I know?” in response. This goes on for several months until Marnie gets tired of asking, takes matters into her own hands, and organizes the whole thing. And the truth is, as irritating as it is for her, this generally works out. She gets to make the big decisions and knows how to tend to the details with greater efficiency than the rest of us – myself and our two sons – and everyone gets a nice trip in the end. So it’s all good. Continue reading “Road Trip: Everything You Need to Know About Campus Visits – Part 2”

Why College Matters: The World Needs You

Note to MCW readers: In light of the terror attack in Nice, France last night I want briefly to step away from my primary focus on offering information, insights, and advice about the college experience. Instead, today I offer the essay below as one way of understanding why college matters.

Here we are again. Another act of terror. Another staggering body count and extraordinary number of innocent men, women, and children – children – dead or lying in hospital beds battered and bandaged. Another community reeling, devastated by unimaginable brutality and incomprehensible loss. Another city – Nice – whose name will always be linked to tragedy – Dallas, Orlando, Paris, San Bernardino, Brussels, Istanbul, Charleston…the list goes on and on. To say nothing of Baton Rouge or Falcon Heights or Ferguson, or Chicago.

The totality of the violence and cruelty and death gets to be overwhelming. It is frightening and unsettling and disorienting. The realization that evil exists and its relentless intrusions into our daily lives shake us to the core and leave us confused and uncertain. And so we recoil. We despair. We grow defensive. We assign blame. We seek retribution. Or we change the subject and try to tune it out because it all feels too complex and fraught and hopeless.

This space is about helping you to navigate and understand and succeed in college. And more often than not it will focus on relatively narrow topics and issues – writing a good application essay, the relative importance of standardized tests, dealing with roommate issues, etc. But today, in the all too fresh aftermath of Nice and Dallas and Orlando and the rest, I want to speak to why college matters. Continue reading “Why College Matters: The World Needs You”

Road Trip: Everything You Need to Know About Campus Visits – Part 1

(Note: This is the first of two posts regarding prospective visit campus visits. The second installment will follow later this week.)

 Let’s talk about summer vacation. For students ranging from kindergarten through college, and their parents and families, summer vacation is that simultaneously blessed and cursed stretch of time between the last day of school in the spring – Whoooo! – and the first day back in the fall – Really? Do I have to? (It’s worth acknowledging that many parents do their whooping in the fall and their whining in the spring, but that is a topic for another day.) And for students heading into their final year of high school, and their parents and families, summer vacation is the time to visit colleges.

Awesome!

Traveling to and from campus visits will provide a wonderful opportunity for family bonding while blissfully critiquing the tour guides and engaging in thoughtful, pithy conversation about the range of course offerings, internships, and study abroad opportunities at each of the institutions you see. For students, it’s an important step on the path to independence as you take responsibility for planning each visit, scheduling interviews, and mapping out rest stops and places to eat. For parents, it’s a chance to spend large chunks of uninterrupted quality time with your burgeoning scholars, and to bask in the pride of watching them dazzle student interviewers and admissions officers with their charm and effortless repartee. And, if you are so fortunate as to make multiple college visits strung together over two or more consecutive days, the experience can be even more enriching as you will be together in confined spaces 24/7 over the entire duration of the trip. Continue reading “Road Trip: Everything You Need to Know About Campus Visits – Part 1”